By Cliff Aliperti
Here’s my step-by-step lesson about how to properly suck it up when you make a mistake on an eBay order and still have a chance at receiving positive feedback in the end. Or at least a tale of how I screwed up big-time, expected poor feedback but tried really hard to avoid it and succeeded!
This happened about a month ago and my DSR’s have remained constant as well, so I’m pretty sure these buyers didn’t hammer me at all.
In fact, John had just posted Don’t Be a JERK! “Well I Shipped It”… WTH? That Is NOT An Answer on April 5, and while I don’t think I would have handled this problem any differently, this video that he originally embedded in that post did at least validate my methods.
From my first reply to Buyer #1, who we’ll meet below, I imagined myself fixing the problem and creating this post, complete with John’s more succinct video embedded to further drive my point home.
Now, we all make mistakes from time to time. I’ve always said I love my 100% eBay feedback, but I know that in reality I’m far from perfect. I’m strong on describing items and excel in communication, which this little write-up should serve to prove, but about once I year I’ll pull a switcheroo with my shipping labels and buyers will receive the wrong goods.
Once a year, not terrible, but besides being a royal pain to correct because of having other people (the buyers) involved in the process, it’s really embarrassing. Whenever I’m forced to apologize for this goof I always feel like I’m telling the buyer, “Hey, I screw up once per year and you won the prize!”
This is an area where we, the sole proprietor, small-seller, hobby-seller, hands-on seller, or whatever you think of yourself as, have the advantage over the big boys. Customer service, don’t screw it up and always be a person –
Here’s how this one got started**:
April 4, received from buyer #1:
”You did not send the Tom Mix card instead you sent "BAJO TU HECHIZO" Movie Card. What ever that is. So now you have to figure out what you did wrong and get me my Tom Mix card and how do I get this WRONG CARD back to you. Please advise a.s.a.p.”
**Obviously all buyers names, addresses, e-mail addresses have been removed. I’ve also removed some of the identifying details about the movie star trading cards, but I tried to leave enough info for you to distinguish one card from another.
Okay, I know I goofed, but Bajo tu Hechzio? What the hell does that mean? I go through all my shipping receipts from that day and I’m clueless.
My reply to buyer #1:
Hi, I’m very sorry if there’s been any mix-up. Can you send an image of what you received to (email address here) — I’ve got to be honest, I have no idea what you’ve got there, I’ve never heard of it, so I can’t imagine it’s from me. If I mixed something up I definitely want to fix it for you, but I really don’t know what the "BAJO TU HECHIZO" card is, is it a Tom Mix card even? Definitely want to get this figured out. Thanks, Cliff
Okay, I might have goofed a little with that response, but I’ve really got no idea of what I sent this buyer at this point. Even so, did I deserve this:
April 5, received from buyer #1:
”What kind of a operation are you running anyway? The card you sent me was NOT the Tom Mix card I paid you for which was supposed to be (detailed description removed). Instead I get a (detailed description removed) "BAJO TU HECHIZO’ Lawrence Tibbett … card. Now please tell me were my card is and how soon I will get it. Thank you (name removed).
Well, at least he said thank you. I’ve got to be honest, this one got under my skin some. I had to step away before I answered this. On the bright side I now have enough information to identify Buyer #2.
I came back with this carefully crafted reply, which I think finally cooled Buyer #1 off some:
“Hi (Name deleted),
I’m a one-man operation and I made a mistake which I apologize for profusely. The card you received was intended for another buyer which leads me to believe they have received your Tom Mix card.
I’m going to contact them right after I send this email to you– could you please return the card you received to (address removed)
I’ll get your Tom Mix card out to you as soon as it is returned to me (estimated time: 1-2 weeks depending upon how quick the other buyer returns the Mix card to me) and will refund you both for the shipping fee for getting the Lawrence Tibbett card back to me as well as your original shipping charge on the Tom Mix card.
I’m so sorry, if the order is time sensitive just return the other card and I can refund you in full if that’s what you wish. Otherwise I will do my best to right this order for both you and the other customer who received the wrong card.
As a one-man operation I do my best to make sure everyone gets what they want and are happy, but I handle several orders daily so no matter how hard I try I will make a mistake from time to time.
Thank you for your consideration, will do my best to right this –
A little long maybe, but it’s all there-every possible solution to the problem. If Buyer #1 wants their money back that’s fine too, as they bought something good and I could easily sell it again. If they are willing to see this out I’ve enhanced my offer with a little bribe—besides taking care of all of the shipping fees getting everything to its proper place (which the buyers should not be expected to pay anyway) I’m greasing palms a little by offering the original shipping fee back as well.
I don’t have my original email to Buyer #2, but I do have their reply:
April 7, received from Buyer #2:
”yes, you did send me the wrong item. I received a June Marlowe card – rather than the Lawrence Tibbett card. I will send it back to you this week so that you can sort this out and send me the Lawrence Tibbett item.”
Uh oh. June Marlowe card? Buyer #2 doesn’t have the Tom Mix card. Buyer #2 has indicated that a Buyer #3 is also involved here in my first ever 3-way error. I send customers the wrong stuff once a year, okay, I apparently commit the dreaded 3-way error once per decade. Prize, these buyers have hit jackpot!
April 7, Buyer #1 replies:
“I noticed under the mailing label a name written on the envelope (name removed) if that is any help to you. It almost looks like that was written on the envelope to the person it was going to be mailed to. In any event I’ll send the other card back a.s.a.p. Let me know when you have a answer to this problem”
Hmm, Buyer #1 still refers to the problem, okay, but the attitude seems to have gone away and a piece of helpful information is even offered. If the entire transaction hadn’t been complicated by a Buyer #3 entering the picture I’d be gaining confidence. Instead my fingers are still tightly crossed.
I do still have the original email I sent to Buyer #3 (and I assume I sent something similar to Buyer #2 above as well).
Hello, as you probably know by now it appears I’ve sent you the wrong card. I am so sorry about this, as it appears I accidentally put your shipping label on one order and somebody else’s on yours.
I’ve been in contact with the person who received your June Marlowe card and they are returning it to me tomorrow, then, of course I’ll get it off to you ASAP.
I believe you received a Tom Mix card. Could you please return it to me at (address removed)
Of course I’ll reimburse you for shipping it back and send out the Marlowe card at no charge ASAP. I’m very embarrassed about this and so sorry it had to happen with your order.
April 8, Buyer #3 replies:
Card will be mailed tomorrow morning! No problem, we’ve all been there!!
Wow, I’d be a lot less stressed over all this if Buyer #3 had been Buyer #1. At least I would have been prepared for any outbursts later, but in retrospect I’m just happy 2 out of the 3 buyers were so kind and that the first one calmed down some during the process.
Immediately upon receipt of that email from Buyer #3, I wrote this to Buyer #1:
Just wanted to let you know that I heard back from the person with your card today and that they let me know they shipped it out to me today.
I think we’re back on track here, hopefully I can have this all righted very soon. Thanks –
April 8, Buyer #1 replies:
Great. Your card was shipped out yesterday via USPS so you should receive it in a couple of days. Thanks
I’m doing pretty good now. Though this could have led to a slight set-back:
April 11, I write Buyer #1:
Received the card back from you today, thanks so much. I haven’t received your Tom Mix card from the other party yet, but hopefully it’s just a lag in mail delivery. If by some chance that doesn’t arrive Monday I’ll write him again just to make sure it’s been sent. I really expect it Monday though, they were pretty receptive when I wrote.
Buyer #1 replies:
Thanks for the update.
Brief, but not nasty. I don’t think I’ve lost him. And thankfully the card did arrive Monday.
April 18, Buyer #1 leaves me positive feedback:
Very Professional. Good results…………….Thanks
April 29, Buyer #3 leaves me positive feedback:
fantastic item,well described, well packaged and promptly delivered! Thanks!
Buyer #2 never did leave feedback, but I have the tracking info and know their card was delivered, and believe me, I’m sure I didn’t screw it up! Especially with the other two receiving the correct items—you want to talk about paranoid, I can’t tell you how many times I checked and double-checked those packages!
As I mentioned earlier my DSR’s have also remained at the exact same levels since this all began, and I’d assume the rating I was most worried about (Buyer #1) would have registered by now since he left feedback 3 weeks ago today.
So, what did I do?
- I killed them with kindness. “What kind of operation are you running?” is fighting words, but I didn’t take the bait. In fact, I told the buyer exactly what kind of operation I was running with as much of the sarcasm trimmed from the response as possible!
- I communicated as often as possible and provided any relevant information I had. I did leave one thing out—I never mentioned to any of the buyers that there was a third buyer involved. I didn’t lie, but I didn’t think this info was necessary and would have probably just worried the buyers more. I didn’t include it here, but I even wrote Buyer #1 after they left my feedback just to make sure everything went as well as the feedback indicated.
- I bribed them. Look, these are trading cards. I charge $2 to ship and it costs a little less to actually send them. So with 3 buyers I had to lay out an extra $6 total refunding them for getting the cards back to me, another $6 (actually less) to print their new shipping labels and get the packages into the right hands, and then another $6 in the form of $2 for each Buyer to reimburse them for the original shipping fee they paid me.
That last $6 is really a bribe of sorts, yes, but really more of an effort at an honest apology. I’m already out $12, what’s another $6 to try to insure all three buyers leave the transaction happy?
The key to communication though remains walking away from that first email, no matter how rude it may appear. I think most of us realize by now that ALL CAPS doesn’t always indicate screaming, it may just indicate nearsightedness, but beyond that, if your customer doesn’t receive what they ordered they’re absolutely right to take it out on you.
Frankly, if buyer #1 outright called me a S.O.B. I would have still come back kind. If he persisted, well, he’s still right about the main issue, I just would have reeled in some of the chit-chat and kept my emails all-business and brief.
Speaking of brief, I think we’ll end this one here. Hope some of this helps you at some point, but for now just keep double-checking those packages before you send them out!